Hi! Ju here from Happily Unbalanced
Do you know who you are? Like, in here *gestures to heart* do you know who you are?
I don’t mean your name, how tall you are, what you do, where you live….Do you know who you are? What makes you tick? Who the authentic version of you is….?
I ask this because the irony behind that was myself getting ready for this video! What should I wear? What should I say? How should I say it??????
Out-take after out-take! The irony being that I was actually talking about being authentic you! Which made me realise I was really stuck inside my head trying to be the right person for you! Which goes against what I’m actually asking you to do, being authentic you! So I took a deep breath. Mr HunBal looked at me and said, “Just. Be. You.”
So I figured, if I’m struggling with it, someone else might be struggling with it. Hence this video. Hence why I’m still recording and not crying in a heap in the corner.
So, I have a question for you: Do you worry about what others think about you, about how you look, about what you say? Um, about what you think about different topics? Have you found yourself staying silent in a group setting? There might be a conversation and you may not agree with something that’s said, but instead of speaking up, you keep quiet coz you’re worried about what people might think….“Oh my gosh, you don’t agree with us?!” It’s like, “Ohmahgawhd!”
Have you ever felt that way? Have you ever felt, about, like being really conscious about how you look? Ummm, have you worn something because you thought that’s what you’re supposed to wear? Or have you not worn something because you’ve been worried about people criticizing or judging you for how you look?
It’s actually such a trap to be concerned about everyone else’s opinions and thoughts and feelings towards you. It’s not possible to be everything to everyone. When we try and do that, it squashes us. It’s like a massive weight on our shoulders. We’re not designed to be everything to everyone. I’m not designed to make sure that everyone that crosses my path likes me.
It’s taken a little while to get to this point where I’ve actually realised I’m OK with not everyone liking me. OK, it stings a little when you find out that someone doesn’t like you! You’re like “gneeeeee”……but I’m learning to get over that. Likewise, it’s actually OK for me not to like everyone. I’m allowed to respectfully to dislike the person, what they do, what they think……it’s OK respectfully doing that.
I love Dr Seuss. There’s a great quote that I have to share with you. It is, “Today you are you. That is truer than true. There is no one alive who is youer than you.”
Can I challenge you on this?
When you get to the end of your life…..have a think, fast forward…..when you’re laying there and you know it’s the end (let’s keep it light and pretty!) you know it’s the end and you look back on your life….when you look back, what do you want to think? Do you want to think, “I got to be me! I allowed myself to be me. I got to explore every aspect of me, every version of me, I allowed myself the freedom to be me!”
Do you want to be laying there thinking, “Well, everyone liked me. I reckon everyone liked me. Am I dying right? Do I look right? Do I, am I….yep, nah…I think I’m dong the whole death thing right……”
So I’m challenging you to be you. There’s only one you in the world and the world needs you! They need you! I need you! And more importantly, YOU actually need YOU!
Does that makes sense? I hope so.
Thank you so much for joining me. Thanks for putting up with all my quirks, I love it! I love you and I look forward to chatting to you next time!